BERNADETTE “BERNIE” TOMESEK-SINGLER
Bernadette “Bernie” Tomesek-Singler, self-proclaimed Queen of Point Place, passed away at the age of 87, on Wednesday, January 29, 2020. Bernie, born February 17, 1932, was raised in the Catholic faith in the Hungarian neighborhood (Birmingham) of Toledo, and was an alumni of St. Ursula Academy, class of 1951. She married John Tomesek in 1954, and settled down in Point Place in 1960 to raise their three children.
In 1978, Bernie landed a job with the Point Place branch of the Toledo Lucas County Public Library, where she happily worked for a record-setting 32 years as a shelver.
Sadly, she lost her husband to cancer in 1979, but God opened a big beautiful window for her as she started a new chapter in her life. Enter the sweet, thoughtful, and generous Rita Wieczorek. Rita would reach out to Bernie to offer her a ride here or there, and before long they became BFFs. Together they attended Catholic Mass every weekend, shared countless meals, traveled to a great many fun and interesting places, and they loved to shop. Rita and her children, Paul and Sandy (Maugel), became family.
In 1982, the Lord bestowed upon Bernie yet another incredible blessing in the form of Richard L. Singler. She had the hots for Rich in her teens, but wanted nothing to do with him as a 50-year-old widow. She caved under the power of his overwhelming charm, and finally agreed to coffee at Frisch’s on Summit. They fell madly in love and married 10 years later. While Bernie adored her prince, she made it very clear that she was not changing her life for him. She would continue to live in her home on 288th and run around with Rita as often as she desired. She often boasted at how other married women were envious of her marriage arrangement.
The last chapter of her life began with a massive stroke on Christmas morning 2009, which left her permanently disabled and in need of 24/7 care. Her two sons gladly committed to being her caregivers, and did all they could to make her life enjoyable.
Despite her limitations, Bernie never lost her love for life or her ability to rule over her family and friends. Each week she was restored to gorgeousness by the amazing Kathy Beaufait at Texture Zone, attended Mass at Immaculate Conception Chapel with Rita and her son, and enjoyed a monthly luncheon with her St. Ursula classmates.
Her children were everything to her, and she remained in control of them to her last dying breath. Even her daughter in Kansas was required to call her “as soon as you get home” each and every night. Bernie was loud, spoke her mind, could swear like a sailor and was controlling and a major pain in the *** at times, but she balanced out by being a whole lot of fun, and loving deeply and unconditionally.
Those who will be missing the heck out of her include husband, Rich; daughter, Terri; sons, Mark (Joyce Schoch) and Brian; stepdaughter, Val; brother, Frank “Fritz” Lesinszki; grandchildren, Stephanie Thorne (Nick) and Matthew Miller; great-granddaughter, Arya Thorne; BFF, Rita, and many more.
Her life will be celebrated on February 22, starting with a 2 p.m. Memorial Mass in Immaculate Conception Chapel (a full-sized church) at St. Vincent’s Hospital (second floor). All are welcome.
Arrangements were entrusted to David R. Jasin-Hoening Funeral Home.